Sunday, August 31, 2014

Flash in the Pan vs. The Pilot Light



Many of us have heard the expression of a flash in the pan. According to the dictionary a flash in the pan is a passing or disappearing with time or transitory. It is a one time event that most likely never to happen again. A pilot light on the other hand, heats up quickly, been around almost a century and can be lit with gas, match or candle. A pilot light is a small gas flame, usually natural gas or liquefied petroleum gas, which is kept alight in order to serve as an ignition source for a more powerful gas burner. I truly believe that the Christian’s source is the Lord and he is the main burner.
While most commercial kitchens still rely on pilot lights for burners, ovens, and grills, newer and younger residential systems typically use an electrical pilot ignition. This is more commonly known as standby on modern remote control fires. It is a safe method of having fire instead of the fun flash in the pan at a restaurant. I thought about my life and decided which light I wanted to be. A pilot light.

It was the late seventies and my first choir concert since joining junior choir at church. In cherub choir I used to try to sing out my friend Samantha because she and I both had strong gifts of singing. But after the cuteness of being in fifth grade going into middle school it was time to grow more serious performances. By that time Samantha had more experiences playing the piano but I had more singing at church solos. After a discussion from my parents I chose to listen to them and remain in the background instead of yelling at the top of my lungs singing. This basically went on to junior high and high school. Samantha got most of the parts in high school and I chose to focus my talents at church. Then I went to college and found myself. I finally had the solos and the musical opportunities. Then off to my teaching career with more musical opportunities, with leading chapel during my Christian School years, time on a Christian television network and even time in a recording studio at one of my teaching gigs five years in a row. Honestly I wonder if I would of got the parts in school if I would be as close to God as I am now. Maybe I would not allow him to help me in other parts of my life. My pain of being in the background especially in junior high and high school would not prepare me for my life as a teacher or help me appreciate what in musical opportunities I have now.

Fast forward to the present and now as I am in music ministry . It is more important for me to be part of the music team as a pilot light instead of being a soloist. My ability does not come from my own talent but from the Lord who was the main source of my power.

This has also carried over to other parts of my life. I enjoy leading. I am a good running coach but this season I have learned to stay in the background with the other coaches. I still use my leadership talents with organization and structure but I usually don’t lead the group. That’s okay and I stand back and observe and learn from them. Last year I worked so hard to be everything to each runner I coached. I risked injury and my own self-esteem with trying to make everyone happy. I probably decreased my own ability at my own marathon because I put some much time and energy into events I could not control like some of my fellow runners not doing their midweek runs or choosing to party instead of getting adequate sleep the night before etc. I learned that being in charge also means allowing others to lead and that effective leadership needs to be shared and that also means taking the heat for others decisions in order to be a team player in the leadership team. I also allowed myself to be human and no matter how hard I try I will not please everyone. The pressure is off and I can enjoy the miles as I run every week.

This summer I also co-taught with another teacher who was an excellent teacher. We got along wonderfully and she was fantastic with the kids. In many ways the children preferred her over me with her mothering and youthfulness. Despite the fact her experience was with mostly older children she adapted beautifully to the younger children. The old me could have been upset because many times I could of taken over but instead I chose to listen to my inner voice and allow others to lead. She was not a flash in the pan but another pilot light. Just how she stayed lit was different than me but it was effective and her classroom and mine grew a lot academically during the summer. There are many ways to a pilot to stay lighted whether it is by electric or gas. Each has its advantages in many different ways.

In Matthew 5:14-16New International Version (NIV) it states.” 14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. When it gets down to it you are a witness for Him and not to glorify yourself. A pilot light is the best way to glorify him with your light.

Living Through a Bad Decision

Living Through a Bad Decision

Recently I think that the Lord has been teaching me to live through bad decisions. Some of the decisions were made by me and others but it seems like I have had to live the consequences through them both. But I have learned some valuable lessons through them.

First of all with my own blunders I have used the mistakes as an opportunity to grow and not do them again. I have seen the pain and problems that they have caused and choose to find ways to never go down that path again.

For others blunders I have decided some things are not necessary to punish others but just take the heat and move on. I have also learned which things to own and others to just give up. Life is too short to always seem to win.

I am also learning about myself. Mistakes made cannot be fixed like a Brady Bunch Sitcom in just half an hour but they can be repaired. Some errors either caused by myself or others just take time.

Through faults of your friends you can grow too. One of my friends is going through a life change she has not told me about. I choose to be nice and stay with her even though I really don’t agree with her decision. Recently I was involved in some decision making that ticked off a few people. Part of it was stuff I owned but a lot of it was others decisions and I got to be the lucky one to brunt the situation. It really showed me who some of whom I considered my friends were not. That really hurt but I am grateful it happened. I also saw people who stuck by me and that was good.

I have learned that pain can be a great teacher. Now that some of my mistakes or problems that have incurred in my life are somewhat behind me I can use them to help others. It feels good to talk about my humanness. When an athlete says no pain no gain I also think that is true about life.

Last the best part of being a person in life is having a personal relationship with Christ. Through our pain we can remember that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ bore the ultimate pain of our sins and decisions by dying on the cross for us. In conclusion Isaiah 53:4 says Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! Ultimately with Christ we are not alone.

Last Minute Emergencies

Last Minute Emergencies

If I were describe this week I would say it has been a series of last minute emergencies. First of all a neighbors friend hit my car. She begged me to not call the police. I felt sorry for her as she cried and got very upset. I initially did not and tried to get the repairs going myself. Then the phone calls with getting the repairs and rental car set up, the conversations with the woman about paying and jobs that usually insurance companies get paid for I had to do. Also the visits to get the estimates for the repairs. And my own mental frustration having someone hurt my car, the emotions from being angry, the hurt and frustration to get all the work done in time for my job to begin was too much to bear.

Then I went to work and came across a ton of situations where things I had to do were jobs that usually in other places are done by others. On top of all my mess I had to deal with others lack of urgency to take care of them. I also had the typical drama that women have working together in the workplace. I also felt the uncertainty of the new school year and the students coming to me. I also felt the sadness of regret of my mistakes of the past, the social awkwardness I feel with some social circles and then the balance of feeling like no one understands.
Then I had a phone call from a relative that deals with situations at the last minute. When my husband told her we would not be available because it was the same day my dad’s70th birthday party she called back and after hanging up on my with some crap about what would Jesus do. I finally had enough and for the first time in 17 years told her that we were going to my dad’s party and that was that and I hung up on her. I am sure she was shocked because I never stand up to her. But enough is enough.
Then a volunteer activity that I felt had been going along well was put to my attention that some of the participants were not happy with some decisions that had been made and I needed to change my plan just to fit the desires of a few. I found out real fast who were my true friends when a decision made by another person resulted in a few of my friends mad at me and pretty ugly about the situation. It killed me knowing what had been a relaxing activity was turning into a stressful weekly event.
Despite the last minute emergencies I am happy to report things worked out. First of all the car repairs. I was able to get things repaired and it did not affect my first day of classes as a teacher. I even got a car slightly bigger than my current one so a wagon I was going to use in my classroom fit I found and I was able to use it to bring to school. My car looks great and the problem was taken care of.
The situations are work are working themselves out like they usually do and I am learning that my time table is not everyone elses. I am learning to adjust and be human. Relax and it is amazing how many things get done.
The relative situation worked out. She even called my husband and apologized for her behavior. Maybe it was a good thing for her to see she could not push me around but it also taught me that sometimes time is the best healer of situations.
The volunteer activity has evened out a bit. I am also seeing another door to maybe lessen my responsibility in the future and try another direction of not leading and or going to a different group after the season ends. Sometimes it is time to try something new.
In conclusion God knows it all as Psalms 139: 23-24 says

Psalm 139:23-24New International Version (NIV)
23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.
Aren’t we glad God knows it all and despite the craziness of others emergencies that He is truly in control.


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I have been writing for a while and sometimes I get an idea and I feel like I want to post about it without the stress of producing for a specific online magazine. This is forum of mine and I hope it encourages you along the way. I am not perfect but I am working toward Heaven with trying to follow the Lord in a fuller way. Hope through my life's journey I can encourage and challenge you in some way. Chris